Husbands

• If you don’t listen to your mate and treat what she says as important, she may stop talking to you and find someone else more willing to listen.
  
• If you don’t learn to speak your wife’s love languages, she may care very little about speaking yours.
  
• If you’re not committed to your wife with your eyes and your mind, your hands and feet are sure to follow.
  
• (For men of faith) If you don’t model healthy spiritual stewardship in your marriage, your wife won’t respect you and spiritual bankruptcy may be on the horizon.
  
• If you’ve lost interest in creatively loving and serving your best friend (yes, you’re wife should be your best friend!), she’ll eventually tire of creatively loving and serving you.
  
• Trust between partners can be lost in a millisecond; gaining it back may take a lifetime.
  
• If you don’t learn to respect or at least accept all aspects of your teammate, your judgment and condemnation will forever divide the two of you.
  
• If you don’t acknowledge your _______ (fill in the blank with your addiction/character defect of choice) and get help, you will cause more pain and suffering for you and your mate than you could possibly imagine.

Gentlemen, nothing in this world is guaranteed, right? Wrong. I guarantee you that if you rise to the task of being a real man, miracles can and will happen for you and your wife in your marriage. Your wife is desperately craving to be loved, desired and protected by you. If you make your marriage a top priority, it can’t help but improve.

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  Dads

• Your daughters will date and marry men like you.
  
• Your sons will overwhelmingly treat women the way you treat their mom.
  
• Your children will pay infinitely more attention to what you do than to what you say.
  
• Your children will learn about sex, drugs, and alcohol from all the wrong people if you don't step up to your responsibility and tell them yourself.
  
• Your children will spend time with you in your older years directly proportional to how you spent time with them in their younger years.
  
• Your children will learn their values and morals from friends, teachers, and TV if you don't model and share your own.
  
• Your children will stop talking and listening to you if you don't stop complaining, criticizing and judging them.
  
• Your children are aware of much more than you give them credit for.
  
• (For men of faith) Your children won't believe in God if you don't model genuine Godly behavior.
  
• Your children won't forgive or forget your insults or blunders if you don't apologize for them, ask for forgiveness and seek to change.
  
• Your children won't always be children, so your opportunity to prepare them for survival in the world is limited to somewhere between 0-18 years.

If you earnestly show your children you love them by pouring your life into them, they will love, respect and admire you, in addition to being much better prepared to succeed in this life themselves.

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  Men in Recovery

• Your past mistakes will repeat themselves or pop up in other areas if you don't keep at healing and growing up.
  
• Your past addictive behaviors have caused more hurt to yourself and others than you can ever imagine.
  
• Your mental, spiritual, and emotional maturity took a very long vacation when you were indulging in your drug(s) of choice.
  
• Your old self (that person who did all that old stuff) will accompany you for the rest of your life.
  
• Good sobriety (not indulging) is not equal to good recovery (continuously working a healthy program).
  
• Your future quality of life is totally dependent on the current quality of your recovery, spiritual growth, and emotional healing.
  
• Going it alone and hoping for success is like sports legends Joe Montana or Michael Jordan facing opposing teams single-handedly and expecting a victory.

If you think life in recovery is hard, going back to your old life will simply compound the misery because now you know the truth…addiction does NOT have to control you. And believe me, your dark past will pale in comparison to the brightness of your future if you purpose and plan to make it so.

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